The idea behind one little word® is to pick a word at the beginning of the year and inviting it into your life. If you join Ali Edwards' class you get a monthly prompt. Each prompt helps you to focus on one thing about your one little word and how you make it work for you.
Your one little word follows you through the year and helps to keep the focus. It forces you to think about how your are living your life.
I picked my word open in January. (I wrote more about why I choose this word here). I never imagined that it’ll change my life so much. There are five big little things I learned in the past (almost) 12 months.
one// to be open actually changes your life
As I wrote here I choose this word because I wanted to change my life. And guess what, it really changed my life. I opened myself and let new and old people back into my life. I talked to people I haven’t in over 10 years and it felt good. There are a handful of people I invited into my life and one person really became a new friend. This makes me so so happy. I signed up for Instagram in February and this was also a way to open up. I’m sharing parts of my real life with the whole wide world. And again this experience only brought positive things into my life. My life is totally different than it was a year ago and I like it.
two// you constantly have to work on yourself
It is so easy to fall back into your old patterns you wanted to change. They were part of your life for such a long time while your new word/way of living is only for a few months. But when you work on yourself and remind yourself of the benefits again and again this new way of living gets the normal way of living. In some ways it’s very similar to my habit project I made this year.
three// you have to say no sometimes
While being open has a lot to do with saying yes to new things it is also so important to say no sometimes. I had to accept I can’t do everything or I wouldn’t do it sincerely. To say no is hard. Really hard. Because you think you dissapoint someone. But I learned that everyone is okay with you saying no. I said no a few times this year and there wasn’t one negative reaction. In fact there were answers like „I like that you can say no.“ or „I have to say no more often!“.
four// don’t compare your journey with someone else’s
There is a private Facebook group for those who are participating in this class. You can also find a ton of photos on Instagram (#onelittleword) of other people’s album. The community is awesome and it really is inspiring to see you are not alone on this journey but at the same time it is so easy to compare yourself with others. To be frustrated how someone else is so much better with letting go of things or opening their heart or inviting play so successfully into their life. Sometimes I had thoughts like „This girl is so good with xxx“ or „she accomplished so much more than I did this month“. Let’s be honest; our lives are so different and you simply shouldn’t compare yourself with others. Yes, in theory this sounds pretty easy. And it can be easy. I can make the choice to not compare myself. Because really, what benefits are there when you compare yourself and feel bad afterwards. I can’t think of one. So don’t compare and focus on your life instead.
five// the focus changes through the year
At the beginning of the year we had to write down our intentions. Twelve things we wanted to invite into our life and work on them during the year. I was a different person twelve months ago and so was my focus. There are two things on my list I am not interested in anymore. They aren’t important to the life I’m living today. And this is okay. It’s so much better to let things go I lost interest in and make space for things I truly love. To accept this is something I had to learn. I am such a black and white person. If there is something on the list it had to be done. But in the end it makes you happier when you let it go.